Why Do We Choose To Stay In An Abusive Relationship?

In this busy world where people invest most of their lives in work and money-making business, all they long for is true love. 

Every relationship seems flowery and colorful in the beginning but after some time the color starts to fade away which is completely normal as nobody can be cheesy or cuddly all the time in a relationship. Little disagreements between two individuals in a relationship are healthy but the problem occurs when the same differences become a huge fight and affects your mental health, even then some people choose to stay in a toxic relationship and continue to hurt themselves. 

But why do we do that of ourselves?

Ever wondered what goes in the people’s heads who choose to stay in a relationship despite being abused?

Read on to know the answer.

1) Society 

Our society normalizes unhealthy behavior. When you analyze that it could be wrong, but fail to broadly agree upon it due to the social norms. Our society has normalized toxic behavior and hence it makes us reconsider our decision. 

2) Destroyed Self-esteem

Often, people in emotionally abusive relationships may not even understand that they are being abused because as there’s no physical violence involved in it. It becomes really hard for people to leave their partners after they’ve continuously been made to feel worthless and they end up thinking that there’s no better option for them. 

3) The Cycle Of Abuse

When an abusive situation arises, it is often followed by the abuser doing something nice like booking the 2nd honeymoon or buying an expensive gift, or simply apologizing with a doggy face and promising that they will never do it again. This pacifies the original abusive situation and the abuser gets away with it. 

4) Leaving Could Be Dangerous 

Often, leaving a toxic relationship is not only emotionally difficult but can also be life-threatening. In fact, the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when the partner decides to move out post break up. 

5) Guilt 

After a dispute, an abuser turns around the situation, making their partner feel guilty and that the whole mess is their fault. This type of behavior is known as gaslighting.

6) Expectations That Things Might Change

Many people stay in a toxic relationship because they love their partner and hope that things will eventually fall in place. They might also believe that their partner’s ill behavior is a result of certain circumstances, and being nice to them might change the scenario. But unfortunately, that doesn’t usually happen. 

Staying in an abusive and toxic relationship can ruin you physically and mentally, getting out of it asap is the right thing to do. 

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