The word toxic needs no introduction. It doesn’t bend towards a positive outlook, and we should refrain from anything that hints towards the T-word. Well, the F word isn’t as dangerous as the T-word in today’s day because it leads to years of emotional baggage, heartbreaks, and whatnot! We don’t want that, and we don’t want anyone to undergo that. The world could use more love, anyway, don’t you think?
While toxicity in itself is an aversing quality, sometimes, there’s nothing we can do about it. Changing people is not in our hands if they’re unwilling to accept and implement positive changes. If it is a relative, expect the least from them, so you avoid feeling hurt. But when it comes to a relationship, the decision is in your hands! Don’t date someone who has these toxic traits and save yourself from a lifetime of drama.
1. The Unrealistic Type: Don’t mistake “unrealistic” for “romantic.” Romance is the essence of every relationship because it keeps a relationship young. It is being unrealistic that is a toxic trait when dating, or even otherwise. Talking about staying together for twenty-four hours, planning an impossible future, or dreaming of a very undoable wedding. Such a person would always expect too much.
2. The Narcissistic Type: One who thinks too much about themselves doesn’t have the time for someone else. They’ll never be happy with what they have and will always look for something better, unable to accept that perfection is a myth.
3. The “I am the victim” type: Much like ups and downs are a part of life, right and wrong are too. One person can’t be right all the time, and one person can’t be wrong all the time. But the “I am victim type of people” will ensure you take the blame so they can feel good about their self-victimizing act. Remind them, “It takes two to tango!” If something’s not okay but will be affected by it. Maybe on different levels, but that’s just individual differences.
4. The liar type: Do you know that sometimes people lie not because they need to but out of habit? Surprising but true! Liars don’t just contribute to toxicity by creating scenarios of suspicion, heartache, and unnecessary stress, but also cause drama that no apologies can reverse. Red flag!
5. The extremists: Balance is the key in any kind of relationship. An extremity of any kind, be it in love, emotions, anger, or distance can be toxic for both partners. Overdoing is never healthy, and over the years the habit becomes burdensome on one partner.
Look out for such toxic traits and maintain distance if you’re looking forward to dating someone. Don’t let love or attraction cloud your judgment. Although, give yourself enough time to identify these traits. Until then, hold the strings to your heart so you don’t feel as hurt if things don’t work out.