Men are playing a more active role in parenting. They don’t just take the role of provider, protector, and disciplinarian in the family. Today, the role of fatherhood has evolved, and men are embracing a whole load of new skills and values.
How do men influence their kids’ development?
We learn something about ourselves by looking at how our kids see us! Primary school kids in the US were asked to describe what makes a good dad. Here are five qualities in helping our kids grow to be resilient, healthy individuals. In no particular order:
It is there through thick and thin. This is not just being present and correct. It’s about being consistently available for our kids through good times and bad.
Being personally engaged in our kids’ lives, interests, hopes, and dreams daily. Being curious and attentive requires us to put our distractions to one side.
They show compassion, hope, and belief when our child needs it most. Compassion is a state of mind or attitude that helps us to feel connected and close to the human experience of being a child.
4. Valuing of mother
We are showing respect and love for our kids’ mothers. This isn’t about just always agreeing with mum! Valuing is similar to validating our partners for who they are with all their imperfections. Showing love and respect requires action, not just thoughts, and teaches our sons and daughters how to be treated.
We are listening empathically to be understanding, present, and engaged. Putting ourselves into the shoes of others enables them to feel heard, respected, and valued even if we don’t completely get it or even like it!